Mar 20, 2026
In this episode of WTF Stories and Advice, hosts Daryl Gove and Caroline Cranshaw dive into a Reddit AITAH post from a 27-year-old woman whose boyfriend is demanding full access to her online banking claiming that "no secrets is how adults do it." Is this financial transparency, or a massive red flag?
Daryl and Caroline break down why handing over your banking login is actually illegal (yes, really Daryl used to work at a bank), why a narcissist's accusation is often a confession, and how controlling behaviour tends to creep in one small demand at a time. They also share why having your own money and your own privacy isn't a trust issue, it's just good sense.
Timestamps:
- 0:00 — Intro banter (Cards Against Humanity and gym stories)
- 5:00 — Welcome + a note on making fun of people (five stars though, please)
- 7:00 — WTF moment: new students who emigrated to NZ on the same flight 26 years ago
- 10:30 — Reddit story: AITAH for refusing to give my boyfriend my banking login?
- 15:00 — Discussion: why sharing your login is actually illegal + red flag central
- 18:00 — Gaslighting, coercive control, and "a narcissist's accusation is a confession"
- 22:00 — Wild tangent: YouTuber invited to a very wrong party
- 26:00 — The Epstein files and scat tables (you've been warned)
- 29:00 — Black Mirror Season 7 recommendation + wrap up
Recommendations this episode: Black Mirror, Season 7 (Episode 2 in particular — you'll know the one)
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